Denial and Struggle

Death is a common reason for denial. When someone learns of the sudden, unexpected death of a loved one, they often aren’t able to accept the reality of their loss. Initial feelings of denial will protect them at first from the emotional shock and intense sorrow that follows the news of this death.

Chronic or terminal illness also encourages  more feelings of denial. People with severe illness may initially believe their sickness will eventually pass, and things will again return to normal. Then, at this point, they refuse to accept their reality.

Denial can also apply to internal thoughts and feelings. For instance, children who are taught that anger is wrong in any situation, may later, as adults,  remember that training, and refuse to believe their feelings are actually reality. Or, they will believe they are weak in nature, and deny their fear of the unknown. Even men who associate with extreme notions of masculinity often view their fear as a sign of weakness, and quickly deny their feelings of fear. Training early on is often the reason of rejection, or denial for either men, women, or children.

Learn where your fear begins, and work towards bringing it into subjection. We aren’t required to keep all internal feelings inside. It’s best not to closet ourselves, but to reach out for needed assistance–often readily available. Turn to others, and don’t deny, or keep your feelings inside. In fact, sharing is the best way to alleviate sorrow. When we realize we’re not alone, then denial is no longer an obstacle of dread.


About Phoebe Leggett

Phoebe Leggett is an author, poet, and free-lance writer whose articles, stories, and poetry have enhanced the lives of many. In 2007 she received two awards for her work at the Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writer’s Conference in Ridgecrest, North Carolina. Her articles, stories, and poetry have been published in adult and children’s Christian literature as well as online. Her books are available on under her name.
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