The tragedy of death brings sadness that often lingers far into the future. In fact it’s not unreasonable to expect days of darkness and gloom to reside daily for a period of time over the loss of a loved one. But when a child has passed there is no turning back.
Excerpt from book It’s My Time To Grieve by Phoebe Leggett
Although it’s best to move on with your life following the death of a child, this blind in-your-face reality makes that notion an impossibility. In fact, the term time heals all wounds will never fit parental bereavement. This exception relates to the death of a child far more than any other loss. The reverse connotation is more accurate as more intense sorrow will surface as time goes forward. To understand this truth is to accept the verity of death.
When a child is involved, there is no moving forward. Horror and grief are moments that will surround a parent for days and months, even years following the passing of a child. In the aftermath, and for a prolonged period of time, it will be impossible to budge from this sorrow. Survival is accomplished only while anesthetized and numb every waking moment of every meaningless day.
Anguish over the death of your own flesh-and-blood offspring can lead to mental d-fragmentation of sanity. This torment will be even more grueling, time-consuming, and painful as time goes forward.