Death, Grief, and Sorrow-Unbelievable Pain

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It was heart wrenching to see the crushed body of my youngest child with my own eyes. But, it was necessary, and needed for closure. Yet because Matthew was my baby, the pain was unbelievable.

His swollen head oozed a slow stream of blood; evidence of recent trauma. The metal slab where he lay was cold and rigid; as was the funeral home. He was as he had died; not yet prepared for burial.

I wanted to touch him, and hold him close; to cradle him and tell him how sorry I was this had happened—that he deserved better than this. I wanted to tell him how much I loved him; that past conflicts weren’t important, but he was; and that—somehow—everything would be alright.

But I didn’t, and it wasn’t. I just stood stone-cold in front of him; unable to move, unable to think, and unable to cry. I didn’t want to believe this was my child.

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Death, Grief, and Sorrow-I Need a Friend

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“When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands and my soul refused to be comforted” (Psalms 77:2)

“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

What do we need the most when a loved one has passed?

Yes, we need flowers. Yes we need cards and kind words. But most of all we need a friend–someone who truly cares, understands, and feels our pain.

At this crisis in our life we need someone to stop talking, and simply listen to what we have to say. In other words, we need someone we can pour our heart out that will hear to our cry without judging us.

Excerpt from book It’s my Time to Grieve by Phoebe Leggett

Be my Friend

Just grieve with me

And understand

The pain in my heart

Just be my friend

Just cry with me

And hold my hand

Just feel my pain

Just be my friend

 

Just be with me

And help me mend

Just let me talk

Just be my friend

 

Just pray with me

‘Till I can stand

Just be with me

Just be my friend

© Phoebe Leggett

 

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Death, Grief, and Sorrow-Widowhood

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“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

Excerpt from book It’s my Time to Grieve     by Phoebe Leggett

Danny                                                                                                                                                        by Belle Woods

Widowhood has been an adventure at times and a mystery at other times. It has been nearly seven years since my sweet Danny left to be with the Lord. So much happened in the first six months after.

Danny had life insurance on the mortgage, but when we refinanced, the loan officer had all the paperwork ready and waiting for him to sign. She slid the papers across the desk and told him to sign on the x’s.  But I couldn’t sign any of the papers because he was the only one with income.

The following week after his funeral I talked to my personal banker to get the paperwork process started for the mortgage insurance. She began the paper work and then suddenly said, “Oh no!”

Of course I was wanting to know what.

She began to explain to me that the paperwork he had signed stated that he wasn’t on disability on one page and on another he signed for it to be withdrawn from his disability payment. She then told me the insurance may not pay out.

Fear wanted to overtake me. But without the mortgage being paid off, I couldn’t live in the home we had owned for almost 15 years. I knew I had to trust in my God.

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Death, Grief, and Sorrow-Memorial Day 2016

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“When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands and my soul refused to be comforted” (Psalms 77:2)

“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

Excerpt from book It’s my Time to Grieve by Phoebe Leggett

Losing my Parents

Both my parents were devout Christians, but raised their children with a firm hand.

My father was the first to pass. He was eighty-years-old, and died of cancer. He was buried at the Veterans Cemetery in honor of his military service. My mother passed away eleven years later, and is now buried with him.

They both lived through the depression era but refused to talk about it. My father served the military in both Army and Navy during World War II.

As a sailor, he was shipwrecked and dumped into the ocean. Although he survived the cold and murky darkness of the water amid serious threats of shark attacks, he was forever changed. After the war, he remained edgy, nervous, and tense. Over time, he was unable to work a public job; and became a full-time farmer.

The relationship with my father was minimal. He didn’t want children, and was aloof and distant during my childhood. Although he required hard labor from his family on the farm, his input into my raising, other than teaching me the word of God, was almost non-existent. Before he died he managed to say he loved me, although it was a struggle.

My mother read Bible stories and other books to me when I was small. But she loved the Bible best. Over time her health deteriorated. Her last two years were spent in a nursing home. She died of a heart attack at the age of eighty-six.  Her life was long, and evidence that loving God had been her priority.

Both parents were strict in both action and deed. But, they taught me the word of God, and lived it. Because of them I am a Christian today.

Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise—that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth”  (Ephesians 6:2)

The Epitaph on their gravestones is a reminder of their devout faith.

Resting from my labored past (his)

Home in Jesus’ arms at last (hers)

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Death, Grief, and Sorrow-Reflection

bird-1372064016cg9“When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands and my soul refused to be comforted” (Psalms 77:2)

“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

Excerpt from book It’s my Time to Grieve by Phoebe Leggett

Reflection

Once I noticed a bird flying low in front of a speeding car. But as I watched, the car whizzed past, and the bird fell with a thud to the road. It didn’t move from its place, and I knew that it was dead.

After a short moment, another bird flew to its side and stood for a long time; watching in silence as if grieving. The second bird’s response instantly brought tears to my eyes. Later it flew away to never again return. But, somehow, that bird knew its mate was dead.

 If God sees a sparrow fall, how much more does he care when one of his own, his greatest creation, falls from this life? How much more valuable you are than birds” (Luke 12:24)

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Death, Grief and Sorrow-A New Direction

111741509“When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands and my soul refused to be comforted” (Psalms 77:2)

“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

Excerpt from book It’s my Time to Grieve by Phoebe Leggett:

A New Direction

What better way to grieve than by recalling happy times shared with a loved one before they passed? Memories can also help sort through a loss in positive ways. But when you realize time spent with your loved is forever gone, feelings of sadness may be overwhelming. However, if this is the case, re-direct your thoughts to happier moments, and hold them close to your heart.

Joining others on the Internet through Facebook and other websites is the rage for sharing words of comfort while remembering a loved one. Reading written expressions from others will be remedial.

It may take years to sort through the heartache of sorrow. But a place to remember a loved one will be therapeutic, as missing them often takes center stage at un-rehearsed moments.

© Phoebe Leggett

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Death, Grief, and Sorrow-Death of a Child

DSC00004 (3)Today my son would be celebrating his thirty-fourth birthday. Would be. He died when he was twenty-two.

But this day will still be remembered–if only by me.

His life was still important. His contributions still remembered. And, his laughter still reverberates.

The calendar is always marked on this date. The significant moments of his childhood still bring laughter and joy to my heart. And, no matter where I am, he’s only a memory away.

Although it’s been almost twelve years since he left this earth, he is still loved, and greatly missed.

Today his birthday will be celebrated–but with tears.

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 BookCoverImage It's My Time to GrieveWhen author Phoebe Leggett received a call in the middle of the night, her life was forever changed. Her twenty-two year-old son had just been killed in a car crash. Devastated and confused, she embarked on a long and difficult journey to recovery. In It’s My Time to Grieve, Leggett presents a message of hope for hurting hearts as they travel their own journey into grief. Using personal experience as a guide, she shares her story while providing resources to help others successfully navigate through the grieving process, which include: • Moving through the stages of grief • Managing the holidays • Handling emotions of fear, anger, and regret • Grieving the death of a child, spouse, parent, sibling, friend, or pet • Sharing the pain • Gaining comfort and healing from the Bible • Moving forward Applying Bible verses, poetry, and personal stories, It’s my Time to Grieve communicates a message of hope through the comfort God provides. His consolation is all that’s needed to assist you through the process of grieving. Set it free, give it to God, and let it go. Phoebe Leggett is an author, poet, and freelance writer whose articles, devotionals, stories, poetry, and books have enhanced the lives of many. This is the first book in a series titled Seasons of Courage. www.survivordynamics.wordpress.com

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Mother’s Day 2016

img392And  yes, it’s Mother’s Day again. But, for me, it’s always bitter sweet.

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“A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world” (John 16:21)

“When you send your Spirit, they are created…

…when you take away their breath, they die and return to the dust” (Psalms 104:30, 29)

My third child, Matthew, was born at 1:02 early Monday morning, May 10, 1982. My labor began around 11:45 Sunday evening, and just before Mother’s Day ended. Matt hurried into the world following a brief labor of just forty-five minutes. Now two weeks overdue, he made up the time with a speedy delivery.

Even as a child he generated a pattern of waiting—waiting until the last minute to finish his homework, leave his play, or get dressed for school. But when late, he would rush, or speed up, to recover the time. But then he died. He was only twenty-two.

Even at death he retained that same pattern.

 I can’t stand it. I cannot handle this.

I wanted to run away but was too numb to move. Although the memorial service pressed forward, for me the hands of time had stopped.

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Breath of Life

God gave you breath

When you were born

That gave you life

That early morn

God breathed it out

And gave to you

The breath of life

When you were new

With it was given

All you would need

To live and love

And to succeed

But when you died

That lonely night

Your soul then left

And took its flight

When you excelled

With your last breath

God took it back

Into himself

—the breath of life

© Phoebe Leggett

BookCoverImage It's My Time to GrieveWhen author Phoebe Leggett received a call in the middle of the night, her life was forever changed. Her twenty-two year-old son had just been killed in a car crash. Devastated and confused, she embarked on a long and difficult journey to recovery. In It’s My Time to Grieve, Leggett presents a message of hope for hurting hearts as they travel their own journey into grief. Using personal experience as a guide, she shares her story while providing resources to help others successfully navigate through the grieving process, which include: • Moving through the stages of grief • Managing the holidays • Handling emotions of fear, anger, and regret • Grieving the death of a child, spouse, parent, sibling, friend, or pet • Sharing the pain • Gaining comfort and healing from the Bible • Moving forward Applying Bible verses, poetry, and personal stories, It’s my Time to Grieve communicates a message of hope through the comfort God provides. His consolation is all that’s needed to assist you through the process of grieving. Set it free, give it to God, and let it go. Phoebe Leggett is an author, poet, and freelance writer whose articles, devotionals, stories, poetry, and books have enhanced the lives of many. This is the first book in a series titled Seasons of Courage. www.survivordynamics.wordpress.com

 

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Devotional-Get into the Ark

noahs-arkGet into the ark. Now is the time. As it was in the days of Noah…

God’s warnings: blood moons, mass animal deaths, massive fish deaths, earth quakes, the season of the Shemita (Jonathan Kahn’s warning), and more. The return of Christ must be near.

The last blood moon was in September. But other blood moons have also occurred, but unscheduled.

The forces of evil are overtaking the planet. ISIS, another Biblical sign, has caused worldwide panic. Not to mention underground immigrants infiltrating our land to take our country down. Even our own government is turning on us to even banning our speech.

The stage is set. Bible prophecy is unfolding before our very eyes. Just watch the news.

Is it rapture time? Are you ready? Warning; get into the Ark-God’s only safety net.

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Grief and Sorrow-The Glory of Spring

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“Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5)

The season of Spring cannot be matched. It cannot be removed. It cannot change.

But, who wants to change it?

Only when grief overtakes the mind, or sorrow makes one sad.

But when sunshine spills forth, and foliage erupts on tree and land, everything in our world changes. That outcome will always lift the spirit.

Sorrow lasts for a season. But spring is the time of change.

No longer downcast, but embracing the future; I press forward.

As a survivor of grief I will still enjoy the abundance of God’s beauty–knowing that He bears our grief, and understands our sorrow like no one else.

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